14 October 2019, today my twenty-second birthday, no one wished me other than my sister who called in the morning and my friend texted in the night. They made me smile. I was grateful. I felt grateful that they at least remembered me.
The reason I am writing this is that I have spent years to please people, to make them happy and feel special. Today those people, even exist in my life, do not remember me. It’s weird how we care about people who do not care.
I should be sad and distressed but I am not. Because I have realized that no matter what you do for others, how much love you give them. They will treat you the way they want. Your importance in their stare would always remain as they want it to be.
So, having a birthday bash alone without an audience is necessary, even people don’t remember you, but you love yourself. You need to love yourself. You need to be habitual to live alone, without feeling alone.
Here are my pieces of advice for the birthday person from me:
Go To The Salon
Go to the salon or spa, get a good massage, manicures pedicures, and a haircut if you feel like it. It is a treat that you should give yourself, to relax and feel at ease.
Even if you’re at a low budget, you can get a manicure and pedicure at home, or at least have a bubble bath and relax while listening to your favorite music.
Eat Your Favourite Food
Breakfast, lunch, or dinner, today is your day, have food, that is full of your favorite dishes and have the taste you are craving. You can make it yourself, because of course, you need to be active on your birthday, treat yourself with love and care.
Shop For Yourself
Shop for yourself, be it a new dress, sandals or watch, shop anything that you like and gift it to yourself. Buy your favorite drink and roam in the shopping center to find the perfect gift for yourself that is good as well as in your budget.
Get ready in The Night
Even if no one is around and no one to compliment you, just get ready! Wear your favorite dresses, shoes, perfumes, and watch, put extra effort to get ready. Drive to your favorite restaurant and be your own date.
Order your favorite dessert and if possible order your favorite pastries after the diner.
Blast The Music
Well, music can really be helpful when you need to soothe your soul and ease your nerves. Let the music be the best friend you need on your birthday. Listen to your favorite songs that cheer you up.
Watch A Movie
Go to the cinema and watch a movie that is from your favorite movie genre. Watching a movie can be a good treat to yourself, something new to think about or have to review on.
Write Plans For Your Next Birthday
Before going to bed, write about how your day went and what changes would you want to make the next year on your birthday. If you would want to throw a party and invite people over. Would you rather spend it alone or with your friends?
Sign Up For Gifts!
Amazon and other websites offer gift cards and extra special deals and discounts on your birthday and special days. Sign up now and add your birthdate!
Starbucks also offer discounts and special free drink on your birthday!
Here, we have a planned birthday to spend. My birthday went okay-ish, listening to music, creating different scenarios in my mind and traveling while I appreciated the imperfect beauty of the sides of the motorway full of mountains of cement, rocks, shrubs and palm trees.
Right now, I’m sitting among everyone and I have gotten ready. I am weirded out by the fact that no one remembers my birthday and no one questions me why I have gotten ready. Well, again, if others don’t care, it should never mean that you stop caring for yourself.
Love yourself, it is as important as loving others.
Read: A Farewell